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Anatomy of Anger and Retaliation<\/h1>\n

Sant Rajinder Singh Ji Maharaj<\/h2>\n

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How does anger arise? Does it only affect us at the emotional level or do we do physical harm to ourselves when we give in to anger? How can we break free from its grip and what are the benefits of doing so?<\/em><\/p>\n

Dealing with a universal problem<\/h2>\n

\"Anger-meditation-Rajinder-Singh\"We can safely assume that all of us go through life with some incident happening that we do not like or that hurts us. Some person has wronged us in some way. Maybe someone has said something to hurt our feelings or hurt us physically. Someone might have taken something from us. Maybe someone has cheated, deceived, or lied to us. Someone we trusted might have broken that trust. Power, position, or wealth might have been taken from us. There is always a root cause of a problem between two people.<\/p>\n

Our initial response<\/h2>\n

So, what happens next? We become upset, hurt, annoyed, and angry. We think about what happened. We don\u2019t like it and we can\u2019t seem to forget it, thinking about it again and again. We may even talk about it repeatedly either to the person who hurt us or to others. Some people who have less control over themselves may thrash out physically to the person or take out their anger on someone else.<\/p>\n

How our mind escalates the problem<\/h2>\n

As the incident escalates, we find our thoughts and words occupied with how to rectify the situation. Some people will try to solve the problem peacefully by talking it over with the person who they felt had wronged them. Sometimes we try that, but the other person is not willing to listen to change. Then, we feel we must do something more drastic.<\/p>\n

This leads to retaliation or revenge. We begin to think about ways to get back at the person who hurt us, or we think about ways to get even with them. We want to see justice done. Our mind refuses to forget what has happened until we retaliate.<\/p>\n

Thus, from that one incident, we end up creating more scenarios and situations in response. The other person then may get back at us for retaliating. A cycle of action and reaction may go on and on, escalating a small situation into a major problem.<\/p>\n

In the video below, taped during a winter holiday program in the Chicago area, Sant Rajinder Singh Ji describes the power of forgiveness and how it can help us rise above feelings of anger (excerpt):<\/em><\/p>\n

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